The 4 Biggest Sex Myths

From news.menshealth.com

We hold these truths to be self-evident: You think about sex more than she does. You’ve had more partners than her. You’re more likely to orgasm.

Trouble is, you’re wrong, according to a new University of Michigan review examining common sex stereotypes.

“I’ve always been suspicious of research on gender differences in sexuality,” explains review author, Terri Conley, Ph.D., and professor of psychology at the University of Michigan. “Our culture is too inclined to take the easy interpretation of a lot of findings.”

Here are the 4 biggest sex myths—and how you can use the truth to your advantage.

Myth: Guys want women with hot bodies. Women want men with money and status.
Reality: A Northwestern University study found that women choose men with higher status when considering an ideal partner, but changed their tunes when evaluating an actual person.
Your plan: Since status doesn’t matter, a creative date will be more memorable than a fancy tasting menu. Luckily, fall is the simplest season for cheap dates. Go on a haunted house tour, take her to a Halloween party, or go apple picking

Myth: Women have fewer sexual partners than men.
Reality: Ever hear the joke that women subtract 2 partners from their “number” and men add 2? There’s some truth to it. When researchers at the University of Maine told a group of women that they were connected to a lie detector, there was less discrepancy between reported male and female partner history. But when women thought their real number wouldn’t be identified, their responses supported the stereotype. “This is likely because there’s a stigma associated with women having more partners,” says Conley.
Your plan: If she feels like she’ll be judged, she’s not about to add one more person to her list. Increase her oxytocin, the hormone associated with trust, and you’ll have more of a chance. If you’re already friends, hug her for 20 seconds—the amount of time it takes to release the feel-good chemical. Just met? Start slow by casually touching her shoulder during conversation.

Myth: Women orgasm less frequently than men.
Reality: Brace yourself: this isn’t quite accurate. An Indiana University study found that women orgasmed only 32 percent as often as men during first-time hookups, 49 percent as often during repeated hookups with one partner, and 79 percent as often in committed relationships. The reason: Men are more generous during foreplay with a committed partner than they are with casual ones, according to the researchers. She can orgasm if you put in the effort—and doing so will make her come back for more.
Your plan: A teeny tiny, nerve-dense bump is the key to multiple sessions in the sack: you’ll need to stimulate the clitoris. But to be better than her previous partners, don’t limit your activity to the head of the clitoris. Focus on the area millimeters above it. “This area has a lot of nerve endings, too,” Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First, told us in Touch Her Here.

Myth: Men think about sex more than women do.
Reality: This is true—kind of. An Ohio State University found that men think about sex more than women do, but they also think about food and sleep more. So? This suggests that you simply think about bodily needs more often, not that you’re sex-crazed.
Your plan: Make her think about sex throughout the day, too. Shoot her a sexy text like, “You made me feel amazing last night.”

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