Monday, December 31, 2012
Nasstoys Introduces Light Up Orgasmic Gels
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Sunday, December 30, 2012
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Why Do You Want a We-Vibe this Holiday Season?
From we-vibe.com
We’ve just finished our “Why Do You Want a We-Vibe this Holiday Season?” contest and the response was overwhelming! It looks like a LOT of our subscribers have ‘Shared Pleasure’ on their wish lists this year. Thanks to all of you who entered, and shared your hopes, dreams and secrets with us; you are all amazing! We had a BLAST looking through all of the creative entries and have the full versions of our five winning entries below.
Some of our winners will warm your heart and others will just make you laugh. Check them all out…
Worst Swimsuit Foods
From menshealth.com
Wouldn't it be great if you could eat something before hitting the beach that would make you look and feel slimmer, instantly? Well, there's no miracle food yet, but there are foods that can make you look and feel fatter in almost no time. And those are the foods you want to avoid right before you don your swimsuit. We listed five of the absolute worst foods for the beach or pool—and what you should go for instead for a glorious day in surf and sun.
Swimsuit Dinner
Salt binges can lead you to retain more water than the Hoover Dam. This one should be obvious. With parmesan cheese, fried croutons, salty dressing and anchovies, chicken Caesar salad is one of the most sodium-packed foods out there. (Versions at certain sit-down chains can contain more than 1,900 mg of sodium!) But it's not just the salt; Caesar ranks right up there with taco salads as one of the most misbegotten "health" foods out there. Some versions at sit-down chain restaurants have more than 1,000 calories, 75 grams of fat and nearly 2,000 milligrams of sodium. Chicken can be a great option, though, because it's a lean meat with protein that fills you up and helps you fight belly fat. Grilled chicken sandwiches can give you the same full feeling as the Caesar salad, without the huge caloric load and bulging belly. Add a side salad with vinaigrette dressing, and you've got a more complete meal with only about 200 extra milligrams of sodium.
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The Best Foods For Better Sex
From Menshealth.com
It's no secret that the unhealthy American diet is contributing to an epidemic of obesity. But there's another hidden epidemic that our fatty diets are at the root of: a national sex crisis. Beyond slimming you down, changing what you eat can boost your performance in bed - these six great foods will help combat the crisis.
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1 cup blueberries
1 cup vanilla yogurt
2 Tbsp flaxseeds
1 cup orange juice
1 cup ice
Consider this man's ultimate erection insurance. The main reason? It's loaded with two of the most potent circulation enhancers out there: soluble fiber and antioxidants. Soluble fiber helps push excess cholesterol through your digestive system before it can be broken down, absorbed, and deposited along the walls of your arteries. Antioxidants attack free radicals before they have the chance to lower nitric oxide levels. And since nitric oxide helps deliver oxygen to your blood, the higher the level, the better your bloodflow.
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The 10 Best Foods for Health
Eating well isn’t just about losing weight From Menshealth.com
Eating well isn’t just about losing weight—it’s about feeling better in every possible way, from fighting off the stress of a bunk economy to maximizing the effects of a serious workout. We’ve pinpointed 10 foods you’d do well to eat everyday and provided you the blueprints for putting each into action.
Best food for your brain: BLUEBERRIES
Anthocyanidin, the antioxidant pigment responsible for the blueberry’s hue, has a powerful bolstering effect on learning and memory. Several studies have indicated that cognitive functions increase along with blueberry consumption.
XBIZ: Top 20 Hottest Sex Toys of 2012
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11 Ways to Ease a Nasty Hangover
By Brittany Risher from MensHealth.com
We chugged H20, popped pills, and even rolled in the sheets to ease our throbbing cranium. Here’s what worked
You know better than to buy anything labeled "hangover cure" for the mornings after a wild night, but there has to be something out there to ease the headache, nausea, and overall sense of feeling like crap—right?
We went to the experts with your list of hangover remedies (thank you, Facebook fans) and asked them what really works. While the research on this topic is limited and there's no one solution to fix all the symptoms of a hangover, a few things can help alleviate specific problems.
Healthy eating.
From Menshealth.com
Crack the middle and watch the flood of chocolate lava flow freely onto your plate
The idea of baking and frosting a multitiered chocolate cake is daunting for most, 
but these little self-contained parcels of joy are the lazy man's cake, the type of dessert that makes a non-baker feel like a pastry king when they emerge from the oven, pregnant with a tide of melted chocolate. Crack the middle and watch the flood of lava flow freely onto your plate—and eventually into your eagerly awaiting mouth. Did we mention these have only 360 calories?
Friday, December 14, 2012
Monday, December 10, 2012
From Head To Toe:15 Secrets About The Female Body
From madamenoire.com
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After enough men and enough mishaps, you realize that there are some things men just didn’t get the memo on when it comes to the woman’s body. Like these:
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Boobs bruise
Sometime after high school, all guys learned—no more hickies! But, that doesn’t mean bruises are a thing of the past. Ever woken up the next morning with black and blue finger prints on your chest? Some men get a little too excited and in the heat of passion, don’t realize that they’re grabbing your breasts as if they’re planning on stealing them. And while it’s nice we get them that excited, it’s not nice wearing turtlenecks for the next week
Bet You Can’t Do It Like Bey! Peep Baddie Bey’s New Pepsi Campaign
From madamenoire.com
Stop the track, let me state facts. Bey told you give her another minute and she’ll be right back!
Thursday, October 11, 2012
10 Surprising Turn-Ons for Women
From Mademan.com
10 Surprising Turn-Ons for Women
Men, put the rulebooks down. And for God’s sake, stop sneaking your sister’s Cosmo for inside intel on women. You can score all the info you need right here, and you won’t even have to explain why you smell like perfume and know all about my cycle. Getting a woman to fawn over you can be tricky, but it’ll be much easier if you note these surprising things that make us swoon. So get on it—chick magnet-tude awaits.
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Wednesday, October 10, 2012
What Does Your Lingerie Color Say About You?
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Red lingerie? You're passionate and energetic.
79% percent of women say buying lingerie is "very important" to them.
According to a recent survey, 79% of women said buying lingerie was "very important" to them. Survey respondents said they buy lingerie: to build self confidence, to feel powerful and to seduce.
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Check out the graphic and see what your lingerie says about you.
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Monday, October 8, 2012
50 Things You Can Try Tonight to Have the Hottest Sex
From TheStir.com
In celebration of my latest book, Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight, I've decided to round up 50 sexy or sex-filled things that you can do -- easily. Well, depending on the kids and time, and without much prep, to help keep things cayenne-pepper hot in the sexy time department. And I want you to add to the list too, please!
Ready?
- Kiss like you did before you had ever done anything else.
- Breathe together, holding and hugging each other while you do it.
- Eat seductively. Really pay attention to how you lick ice cream or chew meat off a bone.
- See how long you can stay turned on without taking any of your clothes off.
- Dry hump with your clothes, or at least your underwear, on.
- Rub your hair all over his body.
- For at least one minute, both of you stare into each other's eyes.
- Set up email accounts using aliases. Then send dirty emails and pictures to that account.
- Play a game of striptease.
- Collaborate on a piece of erotic writing or storytelling. You write/recite a paragraph, then your partner does the same. Go back and forth until you finish the story.
- Buy a pair of nitrile gloves and give your partner a gloved hand job. (Trust me, it feels different.)
- Wear a mask.
- Wear a wig.
- Try a new condom, heck, try the female condom.
- Use a string of pearls (plastic beads will do just fine), and masturbate his penis.
- Masturbate him with a banana peel. Try warming it in the microwave for five seconds for warmer, happier times.
- Use lube. Lots of lube.
- Use silicone lube and get it on in the shower.
- Be blindfolded or do the blindfolding.
- Find three things in the kitchen (like a spatula, wooden spoon, honey) that you can play with sensually.
- Fingerpaint each other's breasts.
- Rock around the clit. With your finger, go clockwise from 12 on back, and counterclockwise. See what time feels best.
- Rent a porn and reenact a scene.
- Masturbate for each other. Cheer, hoot, and holler for your lover.
- Read each other an erotic story from a sexy book.
- Play a board game but change the rules to make them sexy.
- Try a board game designed to inspire monogamy.
- Have sex in your car, even if it's parked in the garage.
- Squeeze your pelvic floor muscles around something or someone.
- Figure out a new sex position using pillows.
- Turn on an electric toothbrush ... use them on his, or her, nipples.
- Use any vibrator ... on him, in the area known as the perineum, between the bum and the balls.
- Have a sexy chat, either by video or text, and yes, even if you live together, do it from separate rooms.
- Have a contest to see who can come first, or who can hold out longest.
- Pick out your partner's outfit and dress them up before you dress them down.
- Buy a wireless vibrator and go out dancing, and let your husband or boyfriend control the remote.
- Have sex first thing in the morning.
- See how high you can bring your sex energy through breathing.
- Get kinky -- try light spanking or flogging.
- Try a vibrator built for two.
- Make love outdoors.
- Go on a date to a cheap hotel room.
- Pay your partner for sex.
- Give, or get, a lap dance.
- Slow dance like it's the first time, but not that first awkward time. Unless, of course, awkward turns you on.
- Write down some fantasies and put them in a hat. Then pick out a fantasy and act it out. Include a list of props in your fantasy.
- Give each other head rubs.
- Massage each other using a soy-based hot wax candle.
- Leave the lights on. Get naughty. If you feel extra frisky, leave the blinds open too.
- Make a meal out of aphrodisiac foods. Feed it to each other, or eat the food off one another.
What hot sex tip could you share?
About the author Jamye Waxman
M.Ed is a sex educator and writer who loves to cuddle. She believes that intimacy takes work but should be fun, and communication is the key. She's also a TMI kind of girl.
Sunday, September 30, 2012
Trendiest Halloween Costumes for Adults, 2012
Trick or Treat
With nearly seven in 10 Americans planning to celebrate Halloween, Oct. 31 is one of the fastest growing holidays of the year. And for good reason, it is a chance to break away from day-to-day routines to let loose and have some fun.
A National Retail Federation survey said Americans will spend $8 billion on Halloween this year, and a good chunk of that will be spent on costumes.
Don’t be fooled: Halloween isn’t just for kids. In fact, more money is expected to be spent on adult costumes this year than on costumes for children.
The trade group estimates there will 6 million adults dressing as a witch, and 3.2 million dressing as a vampire. Trailing those costume choices are the traditional fare: pirates, super heroes, and zombies. Yet costume retailers also see some other trends creeping into Halloween fare this year.
Saturday, September 29, 2012
The 3 Things Men Are Looking For In A Relationship
The 3 Things Men Are Looking For In A Relationship
The way to a man's heart isn't complicated. Fulfill these 3 needs, and he'll be yours long-term.
Women frequently ask me what guys are looking for in their relationships with the women in their lives. And although they may realize how uncomplicated guys are, they are still usually surprised by the simplicity of my answer. In general, men are looking for three things when they become involved romantically with a woman:
1) Sex
2) Comfort
3) Companionship
Friday, September 28, 2012
Must Haves: 10 Super Sexy Plus-Size Lingerie Looks
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Lace, satin and ribbons, oh my! We scoured the internet to come up with the sexiest, sultriest, sweetest pieces of plus-size lingerie, and boy, have we got some hot numbers. From waist-cinching corsets to romantic baby dolls, there’s something for every plus-size lady to feel good in. Check ‘em out above!
Thursday, September 27, 2012
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
New Pictures: Kim Kardashian Shows Off Her Curves in a White Swimsuit
By Deena Bustilloon
'Keeping Up With The Kardashians' stars Kim Kardashian and Kourtney Kardashian relax on the beach in Miami, FL on September 24th, 2012. The sisters were followed by fans and cameras while they lounged and enjoyed the ocean water. (Source: FameFlynet Pictures)
Kim Kardashian's Hottest Looks of the Week Include Lingerie and Tattoos
Kim Kardashian's Hottest Looks of the Week Include Lingerie and Tattoos
By Deena Bustilloon
via Twitter
Kim Kardashian was busy looking stylish and important with her man at New York Fashion Week, but she managed to find enough time to tweet some sexy shots in between the runway shows and sprinkle-covered froyo.
Check out Kim K's fur and pearls, oh, and the see-through lingerie. (via Twitter)
In fact, she even squeezed in two shots of herself in lingerie! Well, it happened to be the same sexy picture twice, just one was zoomed in — for a closer look at her pearls, of course. The image appears to be from the same shoot she did a few weeks back. It's smart that she's getting some mileage out of it!
The brunette also posted some shocking shots on the Web this week. In one shot, she's wearing a revealing old-fashioned swimsuit of sorts with her thigh, arms, chest, neck and even her face "tatted up," as she wrote. Her ink, which was obviously fake, included the face of Lucille Ball, some scrawly writing, and what looked like a snowflake on her neck. It's unclear what the shot was for, but Kardashian said she's "feeling it."
And, she included two images of her face in bold, black makeup. Her "Goth" face.
Check out more of Kim Kardashian's hottest Twitter looks of the week here:
Saturday, September 22, 2012
The Top 10 Bra Brands for Full Bust & Plus Size Women
From thelingerieaddict.com
Pop Quiz! Do you know the average American woman’s bra size?
a) 36B
b) 36C
c) 36D
d) 36DD
If you answered d) 36DD, you’re correct. But if that number sounds a bit larger than what you remember hearing a few years ago, then you’re also correct.
5 years ago, the average American woman’s bra size was 36C. 10 years ago, it was around a 34B. But now, according to the New York Times, WWD, NY Daily News, and prominent bra retailers like Tomima of HerRoom, 36DD is the new average and that means full bust bras are here and they’re here to stay.
Fortunately, the lingerie industry is ahead of the curve (no pun intended). Not only are there more new brands specializing in bras for voluptuous women, well-established companies are also expanding their size range to accommodate this new average.
But before we get into the list of the best bra brands for full figured women , let’s make sure we have the terminology straight. Though they’re often used interchangeably, “full bust” and “plus size” don’t mean the same thing. “Full bust” refers to the actual letter cup size, and it starts at around a DD/E cup (when bra engineering gets a bit more complicated than the standard A-D sizing). “Plus size” refers to the band size and starts at around a 38-40 band.
To give you a quick example, a woman in a 34H bra would be full bust, but not necessarily plus size. Conversely, a women in a 40C bra would be plus size but not necessarily full bust. While there are some brands that specialize in full bust or plus size only, very often the same company will make both…which is why I’m talking about them together in this blog post.
I firmly believe every woman deserves beautiful, comfortable, and affordable lingerie. And I don’t believe that needing a full bust or plus size bra means you have to resign yourself to plain styles in boring shades of beige. And since I get tons of e-mails every week asking about pretty bras for curvy chicks, I have a feeling you feel the same way.
The 10 brands listed here are not only specialists in the world of full figured lingerie, they’re also companies with great reputations. And if you don’t live close to an independent lingerie boutique, don’t worry…almost all of these brands are sold through online retailers with equally great customer service like Figleaves, Bare Necessities, ASOS, and HerRoom. After all, I know it takes some trial and error to find the perfect bra.
So with that out of the way…let’s get started!
Bravissimo–Though Bravissimo is more of a web boutique for D-L cup women, they also design their own in-house line of bras. Their bras are known for vibrant colors, fresh prints, and reasonable prices. A UK based company (one of several on this list), their bras start at £26 or around $42 US. The size range is 28D-40L.
Cleo–Cleo is Panache’s fashion conscious line. Another UK based company, the Cleo range retains Panache’s famous fit, but offers trendy colors and playful prints along with it. I think Cleo’s bras are especially good for teenagers who need comfortable support but also want stylish fun. Bras start at a 28″ back and some styles go up to a J cup.
Curvy Kate–A relative newcomer to the industry, Curvy Kate launched in 2009 and has quickly become a leader in full bust bras. With cup sizes from DD to K and band sizes from 28-44, they’ve definitely got curvy girls covered. Plus, their jewel toned bras are to die for.
Elomi– As a subsidiary of the company that also owns Fantasie, Freya, and Fauve (three more names you’ll see on this list), Elomi certainly knows what they’re doing when it comes to plus size bras. Their look is sophisticated without being stuffy, and they’re stocked at all three of the online lingerie stores I mentioned earlier in this post.
Fantasie–Another brand held by Eveden, Ltd. (the company behind Elomi, above), Fantasie is like the slightly older, somewhat more serious big sister to several of the trendier brands mentioned here. Their bras start at 30D and go up to 40G with prices beginning in the low $40s.
Fauve–Though Fauve is part of the Eveden, Ltd. family, their lingerie has a completely different feel from the other lines. Namely, it looks very, very European. With lace overlays, embroidered detail, and even complete bridal sets…this is very much a full bust line for the elegant woman. While there are a few standard sizes available in some ranges, sizing mostly starts at 30D and ends at 40G.
Freya–Of all the brands on this list, Freya’s the one I’ve heard the most good things about. Much like myself, Freya doesn’t believe that fit is an enemy of fashion, and their bras are cute, flirty, and more than a little romantic. Sizes start at 28D and bra prices start at $42.
Masquerade–Similar to Fauve, Masquerade is another brand heavy on the European detail and styling. Simply put, their bras look opulent, luxurious, and glamorous. Band sizes start at 28 and go up to 38. Cup sizes start at D and go up to H.
Miss Mandalay–There are a few brands on this list that make jealous of my full bust sisters, and this is one. founded in 2005, Miss Mandalay is the curvy girl’s answer to finding beautiful bras that fit beautifully. The size range is 28D to 38GG with room to grow if there’s more demand for more sizes.
Panache–Owned by the same manufacturer that produces Masquerade and Cleo, Panache is another leader in full bust bras. Their “superbra” selection offers both core essentials and seasonal sets in up to K cup making this a great brand to start with if you’re new to full bust bras.
And that’s it! What do you think of this list? Was your favorite bra included? Do you learn about any new brands to try? Tell me your thoughts in the comments.
Credits: Top image via Vogue Italia
Tuesday, July 24, 2012
Could A Man’s Single Friend Have A Negative Effect On A Committed Relationship?
From HelloBeautiful.com
A couple long weekends ago I found myself in the house of my lover’s best friend with a co-ed gathering. The conversation was dominated by the usual topic of sports, which artist has the dopest flow finished off with talks of their high school glory days. A sometime-ish sports enthusiast and as one who did not attend the same high school as the rest of the crew, I would tap in and out of the conversation. Half way through I noticed that I was the only female representative engaged in conversation I attempted to reel the other sister in and introduce more gender neutral topics to the flow.
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
14 Signs You Might Be Bad In Bed
By Stacey Stapleton on iVillage.com
You like to believe your performance between the sheets is stellar and sexy -- but what if your guy doesn't think you're quite the hubba-hubba, sexy love-makin' machine you think you are? We spoke to several sex therapists and relationship experts about what men want in the bedroom to find the things that make a woman bad in bed. While not everyone can become a rock star (er, porn star) overnight, if you find yourself frequently doing (or not doing) these things, it's time to step up your sexual routine.
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
4 Communication Pitfalls in Relationships -- and How to Fix Them
Posted by Aunt Becky on Thestir.com
No relationship is perfect. We all know this. We're not perfect and therefore our relationships will never be perfect either.
That's okay. That's normal.
But success in relationships -- romantic and otherwise -- have a lot to do with proper communication. In fact, most relationship problems are caused by poor communication.
14 Signs You Might Be Bad In Bed
By Stacey Stapleton on iVillage.com
You like to believe your performance between the sheets is stellar and sexy -- but what if your guy doesn't think you're quite the hubba-hubba, sexy love-makin' machine you think you are? We spoke to several sex therapists and relationship experts about what men want in the bedroom to find the things that make a woman bad in bed. While not everyone can become a rock star (er, porn star) overnight, if you find yourself frequently doing (or not doing) these things, it's time to step up your sexual routine.
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The Bedroom Looks Like Your Office
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: Nothing sends a guy’s libido plummeting like reminders of stressful work life. "So keep your daily grind and any symbols of real-world responsibilities (like computers, stacks of bills and buzzing blackberries) out of the boudoir," says Cynthia Gentry, author of What Men Really Want in Bed and What Women Really Want in Bed.
Be better in bed: "Reserve your bed exclusively for sleep and sex," says Gentry. “Which means resisting the urge to curl up with the latest office memo." (We've yet read an office memo that's a turn-on!) Or, do some sexy reading instead: Pull out the Kama Sutra, an erotic best-seller or some good old fashioned Anais Nin and read out loud to each other
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You're Not Into Oral Action
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: Do we really have to tell you why? We've yet to meet a guy who didn’t love getting -- and giving! -- oral sex. So if that's not your bag, know that your guy is probably wishing it were -- and is pretty bummed that it's not.
Be better in bed: What's the issue? Make oral action part of your bedroom repertoire, stat. In fact, the next time your guy is aimlessly surfing the web, start going down on him without saying a word. If you're unsure of your technique, a little primer in how to give an amazing blow job might be just the confidence boost you need. (Trust us, he'll thank you!) And if you're worried about your own nether region, just remember that most guys says going down on their partner is a huge turn-on.
You Jump Out of Bed the Second It's Over
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: We know you need to clean up when the party's, um, over, but really, don't run right to the loo the minute the deed is done. For one thing, it's essentially sending your man the message that you think you two just did something sort of icky. For another, guys actually like that intimate cuddle time, says Gentry, so "getting up immediately and running to the bathroom is a big buzz kill." And don't take offense if he drifts off to sleep -- that's just a sign he’s super-satisfied.
Be better in bed: Take advantage of the quiet time and pay him a compliment. Don't gush and blow smoke up his you-know-what, but rather, get specific. Say, for example, "It was amazing when you rolled me over and got on top." Giving him a gentle rubdown is also a great way to prolong his buzz and your intimacy -- and it may just lead to round two!
You Hang Around in Your Sweatpants
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: We're not suggesting you start vacuuming in a red lace nightie, but men are visual creatures, and your honey will notice if you stop trying to look sexy for him.
Be better in bed: "Pay attention to how you look, and don't get too comfortable,” says relationship and sex expert Ian Kerner. "They may not always verbalize it, but men appreciate a woman who tries to look sexy for them -- it shows she’s interested. Of course you should dress however you like -- but making more of an effort to show off the goods your guy loves can go a long way. So if he adores your tiny waist, wear more belts that show it off. If he loves your cleavage, wear a form-fitting V-neck. And yes, invest in some sexy lingerie. One night when it's just the two of you for dinner, put it on under your sweats. Then, as he's helping clear the table, announce: "It’s time for dessert!" and surprise him with a sexy striptease
You Talk About How Your Ex Was in Bed
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: Yikes! According to Gentry, this is one of the worst things a woman can do in the sack -- even if your current sweetie stacks up favorably. Your guy doesn't want to be compared to his predecessors. He doesn't even want to think about his predecessors -- just like you don't want to think of the women in his past!
Be better in bed: Flattery goes a long way with guys, so tell him he's the best you’ve ever had or point out specific things he does exceptionally well. Murmur "I love it when you…" while you're really starting to get heated. And if your ex really was a love god, then you might have to get creative. Say something like, "I've always wanted a guy to wake me up with oral sex" casually to your current guy. He'll want to be the one to fulfill your fantasy "first," and you'll get the bedroom action you're craving without talking about the lame ex-boyfriend.
Your Pre-Sex Routine Takes Longer Than the Act Itself
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: Picture it: Your man is lying in bed, ready and waiting, and you're in the bathroom brushing your teeth, taking out your contacts and washing off your makeup. Guys hate this! Having sex with you is a major priority for them, and they want you to feel the same way. When your beauty beauty routine comes before he does, well, it just kills the moment.
Be better in bed: Try to do part of your bedtime beauty routine when you get home from work, so later on things can just happen naturally with your guy. Or better yet, save it for after he falls asleep. (And seriously, would it kill you to sleep with your makeup on once in a while?) If you absolutely must touch up your makeup or lather lotion to feel comfortable getting down, do it a sexy way: Invite him to apply that lotion while your legs are spread in front of him, or put on lipstick and go down on him right away, so he can see the color on his shaft.
Your Sex Routine Has Become, Well, Routine
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: Most couples who've been together for a while slip into the mode of having comfortable -- almost lazy -- sex. That’s not a bad thing, as long as it's not the only sex you have. It's natural for men (and women, too) to get bored with the same old routine lovemaking, and you certainly don't want him to think you've lost interest in the relationship -- or that he doesn't turn you on anymore.
Be better in bed: Even if it's just for a night, having hot out-of-your-house hotel sex can really step up your sex life. You don't have to splurge or go far away, just being out of your element will add excitement to your normal routine, advises Gentry. If a night-away isn't an option for you, get yourself a copy of the Kama Sutra and stick post-it notes on all the pages you want to try. Men love a challenge!
You Never Take the Lead
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: C'mon, you know it's not fair to make your man do all the work! "Men often complain that their partners don't initiate sex enough," says Kerner. In fact, according to iVillage’s married sex survey, more than 30 percent of women say their partners initiate sex most of the time. That's not necessarily a bad thing, but it's important for you to be the one who gets things going sometimes. Men want to be wanted, too!
Be better in bed: Next time you’re out to dinner, bring a pair of sexy red panties with you (or wear them, if you’re feeling extra frisky). Excuse yourself to go to the restroom, then when you come back, stick the pair of panties in his pocket. He’ll look down, see your "gift" and instantly ask for the check. Or for a less risqué approach -- get his engine revving throughout the day by sending a steamy (yet blunt) text message about what you can't wait to do to him tonight.
You Act Like It’s a Favor
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: We know you're tired, but acting like you're doing him a favor is not doing anyone any favors. "Having a charity approach to sex is awful, especially if you find yourself saying something like 'go ahead, just do it,'" says Kerner. No one likes to feel that his or her beloved is just grinning and bearing it. And when you don't show any enthusiasm for the act, it's a major blow to his ego.
Be better in bed: Be an active -- and we mean active! -- participant in your sex life, even if you're exhausted. We all know what tired feels like, and chances are your guy understands. But instead of simply turning him down, tell him all the things you really want to do with him... tomorrow. You can also offer to talk dirty in his ear while he gets himself off. You never know, you might just get inspired!
You're Riddled With Insecurities About Your Body
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: Believe us, despite what you see in the mirror, he doesn’t notice those dimples on your thighs or that pimple on your chin. "We all have insecurities, but you've got to get over them. Making love with a woman caught up in a hurricane of self-doubt is really trying," says John Ortved, relationship blogger for Glamour.com. "Confidence is sexy."
Be better in bed: First, ban the sentence "I'm so fat" from your bedroom lexicon. Second: Find lingerie that makes you feel like the sex queen you really are. If you're a curvy girl, you'll look and feel sexiest with your bosom supported and booty well-covered, so find a bra and panty set with these features. If you're an A-cup, create cleavage by choosing a good old-fashioned pushup bra. Trying to hide a belly? Opt for a pretty lace camisole or high-cut brief panties. You'll feel more comfortable -- and let's be honest, they won't stay on long anyway.
You Don’t Give Him Any Feedback
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: Sex is a like party for two, and if you're not having a good time your partner won't either. "Sexual pleasure is best when it's mutual, and if it's not, a big part of a man's motivation is lost," explains Kerner. "He really does want to please you, so let him know how."
Be better in bed: A woman who knows what she likes in bed is sexy. But men aren't mind-readers, so you may need to tell (or better yet, show) him exactly what you want and need. The key is doing it in a way that doesn't ding his ego. Try sandwiching one little thing you don't like in between two things you love. Just fill in the blanks: "I really love it when you…rather than…and it really blows my mind when you…." Other ways to get your point across: Gently guide his hand or shaft exactly where you want it, or be super vocal when he's doing something you love. See how easy that is?
Your Guy Is Suddenly Disinterested
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: Think about it: Most men are always ready, willing and able, but if you've noticed your guy is more standoffish lately, you may be failing to light his fire. "When a man is in love with his partner, but she's just not satisfying him sexually, he may slip into a pattern of not being in the mood as much or showing less enthusiasm when they do have sex," says Gentry.
Be better in bed: An open, honest (outside the bedroom) conversation may be in order here. You can also encourage him to share a fantasy with you -- then grant his wish right there on the spot. The best way to help your honey open up is to get the ball rolling yourself. During foreplay, when you're both feeling frisky and less inhibited, say, "You know what I’ve always wanted to try…" Then playfully prompt him with, "Now it's your turn."
You Clam Up When Things Heat Up
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: If you like what your sweetie is doing, let him know it. You don't have to wake up the whole neighborhood, but a few well-placed moans will let your guy know he's on the right track. And although many women feel awkward about how they sound when they orgasm, most men like a vocal partner. After all, it's a surefire sign he's pleasing you.
Be better in bed: If you're normally the reserved type, go ahead and pump up the volume. And a little dirty talk never hurts either, which, according to Ortved, is something many women aren't doing but that guys love: "It can't sound fake, we don't like that. We want it to be dirty but still sound like you." In other words, don't go from prude to porn star in a single night -- it won't sound believable. If you're still antsy about making some sexy sounds (maybe you have paper thin walls, or worse, roommates), try getting away to a secluded spot or a hotel with private cabins so you can really exercise those vocal chords.
You're a Speed Demon
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: Sex is fun, right? So you should want it to last as long as possible. While we're fans of the occasional quickie, "if you regularly send your guy barreling toward the finish line so you can get back to making your to-do list for work tomorrow, he’s going to sense that sex with him is not a top priority for you," Gentry says.
Be better in bed: Now's the time to be a tease and postpone the big bang. Instead of rushing to the finish line, "bring him to the brink with your hands or your mouth (or both!) and then slow things down when he's about to come," Kerner says. Doing this a few times creates a blissful build up to the final act. We guarantee he'll be back for more!
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