8 Unexpectedly Sexy Things About Guys

8 Unexpectedly Sexy Things About Guys

By Kate Fridkis on thefrisky.com

I am into some pretty standard stuff. I like a man with a gorgeous operatic baritone who is fluent in Swahili, makes a mean waffle, and drives a flashy new Prius. But I also have some atypical tastes, too. I think we all do. I’m sure there are random things that guys appreciate about me, too. Like all of the moles I have on my arms. Someone is definitely into that. I think. My husband. I hope. I’m pretty sure he is. The point is: We’re all sexy. All of us. And only when we acknowledge all that is sexy can we finally admit that just about everything is sexy. I think this admission will be better for the world. Here are eight unusual attributes that really catch my attention in a guy. Just to get the conversation started. Obviously, I expect you to share your random turn-ons as well.

I like my man to:

1. Know a lot (if not all) of the elements on the periodic table. I can usually only name, like, four. So I find this knowledge sexy and slightly mysterious. Plus, it shows thoroughness and dedication. So I’m assuming he’ll be thorough and dedicated in other areas of life too. Like in bed, for example. I’m pretty sure there’s a direct link between the periodic table and my bed.

2. Be a good eater. This is really important. Pickiness is weakness. I love it when a guy is bold with his eating. I like it when he’s willing to try anything in front of him. I like it when he likes vegetables and when he finishes everything on his plate. I do not like wrapping things in Saran Wrap. I’m bored by leftovers. Eat it all, and eat it good.

3. Be clumsy. Knock something over! Trip over your feet! Smoothness looks fake. Tripping over your feet is totally real. I like my men to be real men.

4. Have body hair like there’s no tomorrow. Because there will be an ice-age apocalypse in which only the furriest will survive. I’m not sure if this is unusual or not, honestly. But I’m gonna base this on TV and movies and Calvin Klein underwear ads. The men in these situations generally do not have much, if any, body hair. I am into hair. I like it on the back. I like it covering the entire torso, much like it would cover the torso of a wild beast. I like it to resemble fur. I like it to keep me warm in the winter. And in any ice-ages that may be coming.

5. Have a little chub. This speaks for itself, I think. I mean, it’s hard to be a truly great eater without acquiring an extra layer. And who doesn’t like a little chub? Oh, you? You like ‘em lean and mean and with good hand-eye coordination? OK, fine. I like chub, especially on the belly, because I am into really, really comfortable hugging. And because I like to pat a guy on his belly. I just get this urge.

6. Have big muscles. These are totally out of fashion in Brooklyn, where I live. It is so very, very déclassé to be into big muscles. That’s like being into reality TV or Hostess Snack Cakes. But I can’t help it. I like me some giant muscles. Especially in the thighs. And calves. Definitely the calves.

7. Have a soft speaking voice. I like my men soft-spoken and gracious. It contrasts strikingly with their giant calf muscles. I like to have to say, “What?” a lot, because he’s so quiet. It reminds me that I’m kinda loud. It makes me pay attention. And I always suspect that when he says something, it’s worth listening to. It might be something about the periodic table!

8. Hum to himself. It sounds happy! It makes me want to hum, too. And then I want to dance through a meadow. And then I get depressed that there are no meadows nearby. But first, I am happy.

Kate Fridkis is a Brooklyn-based columnist, freelance writer, and bagel enthusiast who writes the blog Eat the Damn Cake. You can follow her on Twitter at @eatthedamncake.

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10 Surprising Things That Turn Men On

10 Surprising Things That Turn Men On

By The Frisky posted on YourTango.com

Are you handy with tools? That could turn a man on.

Men are unpredictable: They have some surprising turn-ons.

A nice ass in a tight pair of jeans! The ability to hold an intelligent conversation! Fellating a popsicle like it's a penis! All three are practically guaranteed to turn any man on, but they're also sort of, I don't know, obvious. Then I read an article over at MadeMan listing the 10 Surprising Turn-Ons For Women; I agreed with some — drinking wine and being able to engage in a little friendly smack talk– while others I was kind of meh on. I mean, V-neck sweaters are okay, but the only "chick flick" I genuinely appreciate a guy liking is "Fear" and that's because "Fear" is awesome. Anyway, this list did inspire me to unearth the same scientifically proven turn-ons for men for the benefit of the sisterhood. After all, men are both exceedingly complex and irritatingly simplistic creatures, so it makes total sense that the following 10 surprisingly everyday things are the turn-ons that really work.

A nice ass in a tight pair of jeans! The ability to hold an intelligent conversation! Fellating a popsicle like it’s a penis! All three are practically guaranteed to turn any man on, but they’re also sort of, I don’t know, obvious. Then I read an article over at MadeMan listing the 10 Surprising Turn-Ons For Women; I agreed with some — drinking wine and being able to engage in a little friendly smack talk– while others I was kind of meh on. I mean, V-neck sweaters are okay, but the only “chick flick” I genuinely appreciate a guy liking is “Fear” and that’s because “Fear” is awesome. Anyway, this list did inspire me to unearth the same scientifically proven turn-ons for men for the benefit of the sisterhood. After all, men are both exceedingly complex and irritatingly simplistic creatures, so it makes total sense that the following 10 surprisingly everyday things are the turn-ons that really work.

1. Downloading from torrent websites. Not that I’m encouraging illegal downloading or anything, ahem, but there was a time when I was on the wrong side of the law and downloaded all my music and movies from torrent sites. Torrent sites are ideal for downloading large files — I won’t get into the tech mumbo-jumbo, but basically, tell a dude you use them and his eyes will light up like a Christmas tree. I have had not one, not two, but three dudes immediately say, ‘Wow. That’s hot,” when I dropped this info.

2. Being handy with a screwdriver or drill or some other tool. There’s something about a woman who can dismantle her own vacuum cleaner and can identify a jig saw that makes a fella sprout wood. Major bonus points if you also assembled all of your Ikea and West Elm furniture by yourself.

3. Cooking pork loin. Well, not necessarily pork loin and not necessarily cooking it for him. But being able to say, “Oh yeah, I made roasted pork loin [or Beef Wellington or whatever] for Christmas dinner — it came out pretty awesome,” makes him think, Mmm, I love pork loin. Pork loin good. How do I get closer to this chick’s pork loin? And then BAM! His food boner turns into a real boner. I have gotten laid more ever since I really found my way around the kitchen and I don’t even have to cook for a dude to have him be turned on by the fact that I can cook.

4. Doing yoga. Even if the guy would never do yoga himself because he doesn’t think it’s “real” physical fitness, knowing you’re flexible will get him thinking about all sorts of positions he could put you in. Do a back-bend at a bar and watch the men come a-runnin’. (I’m only kind of kidding.) Similarly, though I am not a runner, I have heard from friends who have run half or full marathons that men are always impressed by that information. Setting and accomplishing a goal is sexy, especially one that requires a lot of stamina.

5. Being a good driver. I don’t mean driving like my mom and always using your blinker and staying within the speed limit, either. No, a woman who drives fast and aggressively is showing she’s both competent and a challenge. He may even want you to take the wheel in other ways. Bonus points to the woman who can drive a stick shift.

6. Quoting random song lyrics in everyday conversation. A friend of mine landed her last boyfriend — a big hip-hop fan — when she told him, “I need my third eye poked,” referencing a lyric from a Common song. This works just as well with a hipster, punk rock enthusiast, or a fan of classic rock, and if the lyric is relatively obscure — i.e., NOT “Baby, I’ll be your free bird” — even better.

7. Wearing white cotton underwear. Not everyday or anything, because then its virginal luster becomes too commonplace, but every once and awhile will be a pleasant surprise to behold. A guy friend of mine told me that white underwear has that innocent, “not meant to be seen by others” allure. Whatever. This is great news for women in relationships who can spice things up by splurging on a 3-pack of Hanes rather than some ridiculous get-up at Victoria’s Secret. And it’s even better news for single ladies like myself who hate doing laundry and ran out of clean lacy thongs five days ago and “Whoops!” have a date tonight.

8. Knowing your brown liquor. Can you explain the difference between bourbon, whiskey, and scotch? Do you drink one or all of the above, although having a preference is most desirable? Do you have a top-shelf bottle in your liquor cabinet (if you have a liquor cabinet)? If the answer is yes to all of these incredibly important questions, you are probably getting more ass than Gene Simmons. Respect!

9. Not wearing a bra. All the better to see your tits jiggle, my dear. Knowing there’s less fabric between you and total boob exposure titillates his imagination. Bonus points for a subtly hard nipple.

10. Making dirty jokes. A woman should have at least one nasty joke in her repertoire. In college, I had many, but my personal fave — and the one that worked every time — was the following:

Q: How do you make Martha Stewart scream twice?
A: You fuck her in the ass and then wipe your dick on her curtains.

I’m not saying it’s the funniest joke in the world (although, sorry, but I think it’s great), but it’s all in the delivery. Emphasize “fuck,” “ass,” and “dick,” with a straight face, while making eye contact. Try it. If it doesn’t have the dude looking at you with an arousing appreciation, I will eat my shoe.

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Women of color want bra shades that match their skin

By CLOE CABRERA | The Tampa Tribune
Published: March 17, 2012 Updated: March 17, 2012 - 11:15 AM

 

Tara Raines launched a campaign to get bra retailers to create more shades of nude for women of color.

 

TARA RAINES

Tara Raines believes lingerie retailers aren't offering women equal support.

The Florida native has spent years hunting online and in stores for a bra that matches her skin tone, without much luck.

When she told African-American friends and relatives about her bra dilemma, many confessed to dying nude and blush-colored bras a darker hue themselves.

"It speaks to the ingenuity of black women," says Raines, 31, a psychologist who now lives in Los Angeles. "Nevertheless, they shouldn't have to do that. To me, feeling pretty, put together, sexy and feminine is having foundation garments that look like me. We shouldn't have to settle for something that's completely darker or lighter than our skin."

Raines says it's time bra manufacturers embraced a more diverse definition of nude. So she launched a new Facebook campaign called "What's Your Nude?" with the simple plea, "More brown bras, please." She's urging women to contact bra makers to demand greater representation in the lingerie department.

The campaign has more than 3,500 supporters, including celebrities such as actress Holly Robinson Peete, singer Chrisette Michelle, comic Sheryl Underwood and Food Network' chef Sunny Anderson. And more are joining the cause.

"Often, it seems brown bras are delegated to "Seasonal" collections instead of being core "Essentials," which in my opinion, should be available all the time!" wrote one Facebook fan. "Please wake up, Manufacturers!"

"Thank you for bringing this issue to light," wrote another. "I certainly hope all bra makers will take the hint."

Most retailers carry bras in an assortment of colors, including nude shades that include cream, tan and blush tones tailored to Caucasian skin tones, Raines says. Women with darker skin tones have far fewer alternatives, and mostly opt for black.

Online retailers such as Victoria's Secret, Macy's and Nordstrom are short on options for brown-skinned women, while Dillard's carries a few selections from Wacoal and Cabernet, starting at $38.

The brown bra debate isn't a trivial matter for Char McPherson.

"When you're in a business environment and wear a lighter top, you can see right through it when you're wearing a black bra," the Tampa real estate agent says. "Wearing a bra in your skin tone just makes you feel more comfortable."

And with spring and summer's sheerer fabrics, and more revealing styles, the right color bra is even more important.

"Nude (bras) looks white on me," McPherson says. "It shows up much more under my clothing. All women want that seamless look, as if you're wearing nothing, but you know it's there. Whatever you wear, it's about feeling comfortable. It would be nice to have more (color) options available."

Tom Oertel, owner of Figure Fair Lingerie in St. Petersburg says the "What's Your Nude?" campaign won't have an effect on bra manufacturers because not enough customers buy brown.

"We carried (brown bras) in our store a few years ago, and it didn't go well. They just didn't sell," Oertel says. "And if they don't sell, (manufacturers) aren't going to make them."

Besides, Oertel says, nude bras are appropriate for women or all skin tones. He says his African-American customers prefer black or nude bras.

"Women should wear a nude bra (under their clothes), because it won't show," he adds. "If you're wearing a white T-shirt, you wear a nude bra. It just looks better under clothes."

Rhonda Shear, owner of Rhonda Shear Intimates, disagrees.

"For any woman, if she wants to wear something sheer and wants it to disappear on her skin, darker is better," says the creator of the best-selling Ahh Bra!

Shear says a basic nude is the most popular bra color in her line, but she believes nudes should encompass a wider range of shades.

"The colors of nude need to be updated and expanded," says Shear, whose Ahh Bra comes in hundreds of colors from mocha to golden suntan to ebony. "If you take a nude (bra) from each department store, you're going to get all sorts of pasty colors. But until you start talking about bra colors, you don't realize nude doesn't encompass all women."

Raines says she's grateful for the support the brown bra campaign is generating, and notes that even Caucasian women have joined the cause. Still, the feedback from retailers so far hasn't been very uplifting.

"(Our supporters) have contacted various retailers, and they're told they'll forward it to marketing, but no one is saying they are going to take action," she says.

Still, she's encouraging supporters to find brown bras and take a picture or video and load it online with the retailer and brand name. That way, they can help other women find a bra that matches their skin tone, and they can show support for retailers who support women of color.

"The beauty industry has come a long way in creating makeup shades for women of color," she says. "Now it's time for lingerie companies to do the same."

To support Raines' efforts to get lingerie manufacturers to include more shades of nude, go to "What's Your Nude?" on Facebook and click the "like" tab, or go to Facebook.com/morebrownbras and click "like." You can follow the campaign on Twitter at hashtag #whatsyournude.

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Saudi Arabia cracks down on "erring lingerie shops"

Men were discovered working at stores after a ban came into effect.

Tim FitzsimonsMarch 23, 2012 07:03

 

Fully-veiled Saudi women shop at a lingerie store in the Saudi Red Sea port of Jeddah on January 2, 2012. (Amer Hilabi/AFP/Getty Images)

Saudi Arabia has closed 600 "erring lingerie shops" for flouting a new government ban on men working as sales representatives, the Saudi Gazette reported.

The government gave 30 others warnings to comply with a new law that bans men.

An official told the newspaper, "Ten percentage of women’s shops located in traditional and old markets have not hired women because women have not shown any interest in working in these shops."

The official also said that sales of lingerie are up by 30 percent after the new rule was enacted. The change is based on "socio-economic and cultural reasons," and "must be respected because it was issued by the highest authority in the country," the official continued.

The government is taking an active role in helping stores cope with a dangerous small lingerie labor pool. The Saudi Ministry of Labor can provide a list of women to a lingerie store looking to comply. Men are also banned from entering lingerie stores, and security guards are to be posted at the front of shops to stop sneaking eyes and men from entering.

A member of the Jeddah Chamber of Commerce said women should only work one shift, because "some women find it difficult to work two shifts."

 

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Things Men Find Sexy About Women

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Legs

Fit legs are attractive to a man. MSN polled a few hundred men on Twitter, asking them what they find sexiest in a woman, and legs was the number one answer

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High Heels

As surprising as it is, a man might notice those expensive new shoes you're wearing. The higher the heel, the more attention you'll get.

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Strong Faith

For most men, a strong faith is important. A woman doesn't necessarily have to be religious, but if she has good morals and believes in something greater than herself, a man will feel more connected with her.

 

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Scent

Perhaps not as surprising, attraction begins with scent. A woman doesn't even need to wear perfume; her natural scent will attract a man first.

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Confidence

When it comes to attracting a man, confidence is key -- as long as you're not too cocky. Understated confidence is the sexiest, according to MSN.

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Happiness

Men find genuinely happy girls the sexiest. Reel him in with a smile.

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Exposed Back

An exposed back, especially the small of the back, is attractive to many men. Show a little skin if you choose, but keep it classy.

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Using His Name

When a man hears his name in general conversation, he finds it endearing. Whisper sweet nothings into your man's ear, and throw his name into the conversation every once in a while.

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Curvy Hips

Guys like it when your hips are wider than your waist, giving you a natural curve from your waist to hips. Don't try any crazy diet or exercise programs to achieve this curve though -- that's not attractive.

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Subtle Cleavage

You don't need to wear a turtleneck, but don't let the girls hang all out either. Show a tasteful amount of skin to get your man's attention, just as Eva Longoria did on the red carpet.

Top 10 Signs He's Into You

He Leans In

If a guy is interested, you'll find that his body will lean forward toward yours. This move can be either very subtle or extremely "in your face" (literally!). It's his way of letting you know he'd like to get closer. Once his interest is piqued, you'll both find it hard to pull away!

 

His Eyes Have It

We've all heard the proverb, "The eyes are the window to the soul." If he's interested in you, he'll focus on you with those piercing peepers. Return his romantic gaze with a quiet smile and let him know you’re interested.

 

He’s Got the Touch

If a guy is interested, he'll want to be near you. He'll also want to take every opportunity to touch you. Maybe it's your arm, your leg, your knee -- it doesn't matter, as long as his presence is physical and affectionate. It's his way of letting you know he likes you.

 

He Just Happened to Run Into You

Coincidence is out. Serendipity is in. Those so-called "happy accidents" may not be so accidental after all. Perhaps his "surprise" appearance at your favorite Starbucks or hangout is a signal that he's trying to connect with you (but doesn't want you to think he's a stalker!). Take this as a positive sign and make the most of your next encounter. You may find that you share more in common than just an addiction to double lattes.

 

He Listens!

How do you know that you have a guy's attention? When he's not talking about himself. It's that simple. The next time you're in a bar, listen closely to any table full of men and you’ll hear them speaking rapturously about their favorite subject: themselves. When a man shuts up and really listens to what you have to say, you know it must be love (or at least a strong attraction). He'll put that male ADD to rest once and for all after he's found the one.

 

He’ll Watch a Chick Flick

Chances are he'd much rather be watching the big game, but it's an important sign if he shows an interest in the things you like as well. If he's happy to watch a movie you picked out or doesn't complain when it's time to hit the mall for a little shopping trip, you've made a serious leap forward in the dating game! Give him extra points if he makes the popcorn.

 

He Laughs at Your Jokes

Can't tell a joke to save your life? Does he laugh at it anyway? Men are very in touch with their sense of humor (women often complain that men never take anything seriously, right?), so if he's sending some hearty laughter your way, it's a good bet he's looking at you as relationship material.

 

He’s Nervous

If a guy's into you, you’ll make him nervous. He'll get goose bumps or a rapidly beating heart just from being around you. Look for signs like unexplained laughter, sweaty palms and fidgeting. Guys always want to be in control of their emotions -- we like to be in charge. If he has trouble doing that around you, it's most likely because you make him nervous and excited. Don't take it for granted; help him to relax and he'll thank you by being a great guy you can depend on.

 

He Opens Up

Men and women have very different brain chemistries: She’s verbal; he’s not. He’s driven by visual desires, while she’s guided by deep emotions. Women are taught to rationally express their feelings and feel no shame in crying, and men punch things. So if you get a guy to actually open up and express his emotions, consider it a major achievement in your relationship. Discussing your feelings for each other is a powerful bonding experience for the two of you and serves to strengthen a relationship for whatever challenges the future may bring.

 

He Keeps You Close

Romance is all about reciprocity -- both emotional and physical. Translation: meet his advances with your own. If he sits close to you, maintain that proximity. If he grabs your hand, initiate handholding later. This not only signals your own interest, but also serves to keep his.

 

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4 Signs That a Man's Ready for Marriage -- and 4 That He's Not Read More

 

How to tell if he's ready to take the next step

Sherry Amatenstein ON ivillage.com

Men and marriage -- ever wonder what it takes to get the two together? If you're trying to get your boyfriend to make a commitment, I have good news and bad news. The good news is that you can stop trying to manipulate, sweet talk or pressure him into proposing. The bad news is that there's nothing you can do to speed up the process. That's not to say it'll never happen. Men fall in love and get married every day. But men have their own biological clocks. When they're ready, they head down the aisle -- but not a moment sooner. In the meantime, it's not possible to convince a commitment-phobic guy that you're the best thing that will ever happen to him -- even if you are! If you're anxious to get married, your best bet may be looking for someone who doesn't need convincing to get down on one knee.
The Sex and the City gang once compared a marriage-ready man to a taxi: At a certain point in his life, he becomes ready for commitment. His "available" light goes on and the next lady in his life gets the ring. Luckily for us, it's not that hard to tell the difference between a man who's got the light on and one who's just driving around in the dark. Want some help? Here are four hints that a man has present-day potential to become a mate for life:
His Oat-Sowing Days Are Over
According to John Malloy, author of Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others, which details the results of a survey of 2,500 men, the singles scene no longer appeals to a man who is ready to marry. Malloy interviewed men from ages 17 to 70 who were about to marry; all admitted they felt increasingly out of place in the bars, pool halls and dance clubs that were once their favorite hangouts.
Joe T., a 30-year-old married computer technician in Denver, confirms, "For years I spent every Friday night at a singles bar till I realized I was just pretending to have fun drinking and smoking and hitting on pretty girls who weren't interested. The thought of staying home and chilling seemed much more appealing." Rob F's epiphany came via a shocking realization. The 36-year-old recently married lawyer from New York recalls, "I started not wanting to bed models because I'd have to struggle through a conversation afterward."

He's Financially Independent
Tina Tessina, Ph.D., a California psychotherapist, explains, "Men do have a biological clock, but their timing is different from women. Most men's priorities tend to be focused on winning financial security before having a family. If he's still struggling to pay his bills, he's not going to want to add the burden of supporting a wife." To take it further, the man you're looking for is a grown-up -- someone who can be counted on. He's able to commit to a job, not to mention family and friends. On the romantic front, even if he's not ready to wed right away, he's at least able to discuss the concept of commitment.
Julia, a 27-year-old Philadelphia paralegal, says, "I had a definite type: ski bums and musicians who waited tables to make money. They were sexy as hell, but I was expected to pay for most dates and they'd be reluctant to ask me out for New Year's, never mind the rest of my life. I was miserable. Something had to change." That "something" was her type: The next time Julia went to a singles dance, she tried something new. Instead of seeking out a drummer with six-pack abs, she met an accountant. He may have lacked a hard body, but he did have a loving heart and a steady job and, most importantly, the urge to merge. They're planning a wedding

He's Discovered His Desire to Be a Dad
Carol Morgan, a Boca Raton matchmaker, observes, "He's ready for marriage when he stares longingly at kids and suggests you would have beautiful children." [Editor's note: I'll say!] If your man isn't as straightforward , take a cue from John Malloy, who says, "Most men want to be young enough to teach their sons to fish and play ball and do the male-bonding thing." His research has found that age can have a great effect on a man's attitude toward marriage. Most college-educated men don't consider marriage as a serious possibility until age 26. In fact, they enter a phase of high commitment between the ages of 28 and 33. Men who've gone on to graduate school-- doctors, lawyers, etc. -- hit their commitment-peak phase from age 30 to 36. But Malloy says that once a single man hits 37, the chances that he'll marry start to fade. And after his 43rd birthday, he'll probably remain a bachelor for life.
That's not to say that a man won't catch marriage/fatherhood fever later in life. Mitch J. was 39 when he started seriously wanting a child. The problem for the Los Angeles film publicist: His live-in girlfriend had two children from a previous marriage and no intention of becoming pregnant ever again. Mitch recalls agonizing: "If I stay, I know I will have a good relationship and a stable future. If I leave, who knows if I'll ever find a woman I really love and who wants children." Finally, he chose to leave. Within a year he met Pauline. They're now married and have a baby girl.

He's Your Boyfriend in Name -- Your Husband in Spirit
April Masini, author of Date Out of Your League, explains, "When a man is ready to become a husband -- your husband -- he starts acting like a husband. For instance, he will make plans for the future, introduce you to his friends and family, and not only call you daily but want to tell you the details of his day and have a desire to hear about yours."
Carol Morgan adds, "He's honest and open, and when you enter the room he doesn't immediately make his computer screen go black so you can't see what he's doing. He'll even -- gasp! -- let you answer the phone [at his place]." And if he makes room for you in his closet, baby, your single days are numbered. He'll also listen when you tell him that you're ready for marriage. Malloy says that the key finding in his book about men and marriage was this: "Seventy-three percent of the women coming out of marriage-license bureaus with their future husbands told us that they put pressure on their man to get a proposal. In most cases, this pressure didn't involve an attempt to manipulate their man into marrying them but was simply a result of telling their man what they were feeling."
If you're not sure about your guy's intentions, take notice of the way he acts and, more importantly, the way he talks about your future. If he's making promises but hasn't delivered in a reasonable amount of time, or if he objects to any talk about your future at all, his prospects for becoming a groom are probably pretty grim. But don't just assume he's not ready. Be direct with him and tell him how you feel. Then you'll know exactly where you stand. If he's not ready, he's not ready. In that case, better to move on to a man who is. Who knows if he'll be flashy, but his "available" light will certainly sparkle.
Not sure that he's marriage material? Keep reading.

He's Not Marriage Material If He:
Says he has no interest in tying the knot.
Instead of trying to change his mind, believe him and move on.
Buys a Porsche.
Or other high-end items that no man saving up for a ring or a future would purchase. Carol Morgan says, "If he acts financially immature and irresponsible, he's thinking 'me,' not 'we.'"
Calls his married friends "losers."
If he wants to couple up, he considers a man and a woman building a future together beautiful, not pathetic.
Continually makes you cry.
And they're not tears of happiness. If he's unreliable, abusive, a liar, cheat and/or uber-flirt, divorce yourself from this relationship before it takes a trip to court to do so.

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