Fizzing Chocolate Peppermint Spa Pedicure

 

Amber Edwards of Suzanne Denee Salon, Saint Charles, Ill., offers a CA Botanica pedicure that is the perfect guilt-free chocolate indulgence for your clients.

Suzanne Denee Salon uses:

CA Botanica Sea Enzyme Marine Peppermint Polish, Fizzing Chocolate Mask, Eggnog Vanilla Sugar Scrub, and Vanilla Body Cream; foot soak antiseptic, vanilla essential oil; base coat, polish, and top coat.

Step-by-Step:

1. Soak the client’s feet in warm water with a foot soak antiseptic and vanilla essential oil. Offer her a hot chocolate.

2. Prep nails and file calluses.

3. Don white gloves, then exfoliate the client’s feet and lower legs with CA Botanica Sea Enzyme Marine Peppermint Polish. Rinse.

4. In a small bowl, add 3 Tbsp. of CA Botanica Sea Enzyme Fizzing Chocolate Mask to 3 Tbsp. of warm water. Mix together until the blend is a thin paste. (The powder will expand and the mask will start to fizzle.) Use a brush to apply the mask to the client’s feet and lower legs, then wrap in plastic wrap and warm towels. After fifteen minutes, remove the mask with a warm wet towel.

5. Exfoliate the client’s feet and lower legs with CA Botanica Sea Enzyme Eggnog Vanilla Sugar Scrub. Rinse and dry thoroughly.

6. Massage the client’s feet and lower legs with CA Botanica Sea Enzyme Vanilla Body Cream.

7. Apply base coat, two coats of polish, and top coat.

 

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Never Fake An Orgasm Again

Why faking an orgasm isn't as harmless as you may think. Learn how to reach your peak—for real.

By Kristen Dold on Womensheathmag.com

Faking it happens. A lot. In fact, studies show that 60 percent of women have delivered an Oscar-worthy performance between the sheets. And while it's commonly assumed that women pretend to climax in order to boost a partner's ego or speed up a snoozy romp, new research from Temple University found that for many women, there are other factors at work—among them, a fear of being vulnerable, insecurity about their skills in bed, and the choice to use their faux O as a means to increase their own arousal. While there's little harm in the occasional bluff, here's why you should curb the counterfeit climaxing and find your true peak potential.
Fear of Vulnerability
If a woman isn't emotionally ready to open up to her partner, faking it can be a way to keep the guy at arm's length. A few reasons: She may be wary of becoming too dependent on the guy, or of becoming engulfed by his personality or world and thus losing herself. "There's a vulnerability and emotional risk that comes with climaxing in front of someone," says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., author of Sultry Sex Talk to Seduce Any Lover. A fear of rejection or icky issues from a past relationship may also keep a woman from revealing herself. Bona fide O's require "truly surrendering to the experience and not worrying about being judged," she says. But if you resist letting go, it's nearly impossible to be swept up in the awesomely authentic sensations.
O-vercome it: Amp up the trust and intimacy you need inside the bedroom by speaking up more outside of it, says Women's Health advisor Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Because It Feels Good. "Being authentic about expressing who you are is the key to better sex," she says. Start small: Confide a secret or share an embarrassing story, and when he asks where you want to eat dinner, pick a place instead of saying "Anywhere is fine," says Herbenick. "Men and women who are emotionally close will have an easier time being honest with their partner about how sex feels for them—whether it feels good enough to lead to an orgasm," she says. Improve your bond during the day and you'll be more comfortable directing him "to the left, a little softer, now faster"—and ultimately letting yourself let go—when the lights are out.
Self-Consciousness
Some women put on bed-rattling performances because they're insecure about how long it takes them to climax or what it actually takes to get them there, says Vivienne Cass, Ph.D., author of The Elusive Orgasm. "They see these highly orgasmic women in movies and think that's the norm," she says. Meanwhile, men who watch porn—i.e., most of them—are used to seeing women get off in seconds, which adds to the pressure.
O-vercome it: Be honest about your expectations, and push him to do the same, says Fulbright. A grand finale is not always a given. According to a study from the University of Chicago, only 5 percent of women always climax through intercourse, while nearly 35 percent rarely or never do. In fact, you and your guy probably need to get a little creative. "Research shows that most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, through masturbation, stimulation from a partner, or oral sex," says Charlene L. Muehlenhard, Ph.D., professor of clinical psychology at the University of Kansas.
Ramp up your coital confidence by becoming more familiar with the touches and sensations that make you tick, says Herbenick. When you're alone, try masturbating, fantasizing, or using a vibrator. When you're with your partner, do some hotter-sex homework: Explore each other's bodies for the sole purpose of figuring out what turns you on—with zero intention of orgasm. Then you can show each other what it takes to push you over the edge.
Libido Enhancement
Gasps, growls, heavy breathing, and other faux-O methods can be a big turn-on for women, according to research from Erin B. Cooper, a doctoral student in clinical psychology at Temple University. In her study, women reported that imitating an orgasm increased their levels of arousal and upped the intensity of sex. Plus, common sense holds that if you appear to be on the brink of ecstasy, your guy will most likely kick things into high gear, improving the odds for an authentic finish.
O-vercome it: You may not have to. It's usually fine to keep "fake it to make it" in your better-sex bag of tricks, as long as your guy knows it's not his shortcoming but rather something that turns you on, says Herbenick. That said, it can be just as effective to take part in the sweaty, loud fanfare and shelve the fake finish. Try spicing things up with dirty talk or visualizing having an orgasm as you approach climax, she says. It may sound like psychobabble, but imagining the sensations of an orgasm in your head—the sights, smells, and sounds—can help push you over the top. And then you can leave the faux O's for those women on the big screen.
SILENCE IS GOLDEN
Now hear this: A whopping 80 percent of women admitted to making pleasure sounds such as moaning and groaning half of the time when they knew they weren't going to climax, found researchers from the University of Central Lancashire and the University of Leeds in the U.K. Oddly enough, women reported being quiet during masturbation and oral sex, i.e., when they were more likely to orgasm. Why the yowls of half-hearted passion? "Women know that being loud in bed can enhance the physical intensity of the experience for her partner," explains Diana Hoppe, M.D., author of Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You. It's all good to give him a little audio feedback, but if you're not truly enjoying yourself, offer him more specific heat-of-the-moment direction in lieu of a synthetic sound track. You'll make beautiful music—together.
His Pretend Pleasure
It's not just us—guys fake it too. According to researchers at the University of Kansas, a quarter of the men studied said they've acted out an orgasm during sex. Most men reported faking it because reaching orgasm was unlikely or taking too long, while others were bored, tired, or not in the mood, says study author Charlene L. Muehlenhard, Ph.D.
The telltale signs? The men in the study who artificially O'd said they did so by thrusting harder or faster, clenching their muscles or freezing up, verbally expressing that they had reached orgasm, or acting exhausted afterward. (The study also showed that guys were more likely to say that they faked it because their partner was unattractive, while women were more likely to fess up to faking it when they felt their partner was unskilled.) We polled guys on MensHealth.com to get their POV on phony climaxes:
41% believe there has been a time when both he and his partner faked it.
59% say they can tell when a woman fakes it. How?
36% say it's because she's overly dramatic.
21% of guys would pass up the chance to climax for real in order to fake an O at the "right" time.
46% think the best way to fake an orgasm is to use a condom and trash it before his partner gets a look.
23% say the best way is to keep the lights out!
61% of men who haven't faked an orgasm say they would do so.

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What to Bring to His Place (and What Not to Leave) When You Visit

By How To Get The Man Of Your Dreams.com posted on YourTango.com

If you are feeling naughty or kinky, leave a clean pair of panties underneath his pillow with a note

Ending up at his place for the first few times is pretty exciting and nerve-wracking all on its own. Understanding that what you do and how you act during these first few experiences at cohabitation will tell your man more about you than any words ever could.

Understanding a few key points can help you show the man of your dreams that you are fun, sexy, and responsible. He’ll begin to see you as a good caregiver and someone indispensable in his life over your first few visits to his place - or you could show him that you are definitely not the one.

If you are asked to swing by for the night, or if you end up spending the night unplanned after watching a movie or sharing a few drinks, you may want to bring your essentials with you the next time you visit your man. As a general rule, you want to bring everything you need in one little bag, and not leave anything behind when you leave. Don’t worry about the basics, like towels, soap, or shampoo – but you shouldn’t need to ask him for anything like contact solution, or tampons (he might surprise you).

Bring a toothbrush, deodorant, and a change of underwear and socks. Again, everything should fit in one little bag that you can hopefully keep out of sight. Coming over with luggage or all your make-up and accessories will only clutter up your man’s bathroom. It will also show that you are high-maintenance, not very courteous, and over-confident that you are the only woman in his life.

You definitely never want to bring over bags of luggage, your dirty laundry unless you ask or he invites you to wash it at his house, or your pets or friends if unannounced and not discussed. You don’t want to bring over photos or stuff to hang on the walls. Don’t park your broken down car in his driveway, either – if you know you drive a bucket that’s leaking oil, park it on the street! Consideration is everything.

Men are territorial animals, so don’t invade his space until he invites you to do so. How will you know when it's okay to leave your things at his place? He'll say things like, "It's okay to leave your shirt in the closet," "Don't worry about the shoes at the front door, you can come and get them later," or "Why don't you leave your toothbrush in the cabinet?" When you hear him say those magical words, you now have the official green light. When men start sharing their territory, this clearly means they want and expect you to return on a more serious note.

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What you leave behind can also tell a man a lot about you - how respectful or disrespectful you are, and how likely he will keep pursuing the relationship. If you are feeling naughty or kinky, leave a clean pair of your underwear underneath his pillow with a note. Don’t leave it under the bed or stuck in the couch for someone else to find later. Don’t leave your toothbrush either; keep it in a container in your purse.

Spraying your perfume on his pillow to remind him of you is definitely not okay. Leaving one or two small notes is flirtatious and fun. Leaving more than two notes gets a bit much and may freak your man out.

Another great way to not only open up lines of communication but to judge exactly where your man’s feelings are for you, is to ask him if he likes it when you spend the night. If he says yes, ask him why he likes it. If he tells you that it’s because he loves having sex with you, then perhaps that’s all the relationship will be about. If, however, he tells you that he loves being around you, loves waking up next to you, loves snuggling with you in bed, and loves spending the evenings together, then that will be a clear signal that he is really enjoying your company and not just your sex. 7 Positions to Sleep in that Will Excite the Man of Your Dreams

Just remember that you are a guest at his place until you both move in together. Never take for granted that his door will always be open to you, and definitely don’t leave a mess behind when you leave. As an example, one of our experienced Relationship Coaches has a partner of 14 years who would clean his place when she stayed the night and he was off at work. When he returned home later that evening, and she was gone but the house was tidy and neat, her thoughtfulness was a nice reminder of why he was falling in love with her.

The impressions you leave of what a future with you is going to be like will directly impact if the man of your dreams commits to you or continues looking for the woman of his dreams.

- Relationship Coaches Paul V. and Zach S.
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9 Stereotypes Of Black Men That Aren’t Always True

Written by jmack on hellobeautiful.com

Black stereotypes. They plague both the men and women of our community. We’ve already covered 9 Stereotypes Of Black Women That Aren’t Always True, but now, men, it’s your turn to prove (some of) these rumors wrong.

 

 

1. All Black Men Are Well-Endowed
This one is bound to start some discussion. Upon googling ‘Black men big penis true?’, you’ll find a range of references to an unemployed white man from Brooklyn named John Falcon, who’s apparently the owner of the world’s largest.

Research however will tell you that there is in fact no truth to the debate about differences in size across the races. It is certainly not a guarantee that the next black man you meet will outdo John Falcon in the size department but in terms of a continued discussion about this myth, we’ll leave it with you.

2. They Don’t Like To Work
While Black men suffer from some of the highest rates of unemployment in America, psychologists will confirm that this is in no way related to choice. Men in general are hardwired to want to provide for their families and so will pursue any means possible to achieve that goal. ‘Not wanting to work’ is a negative stereotype of black men that is certainly not true in the grand majority of cases of unemployment.

3. Black Men Are Extremely Sexually Virile
Can we keep this one as it is? What do you think?

4. Black Men Are Great Athletes
Any major sporting event features an array of muscular, testosterone-filled black men. But, ‘Look at them! Now look at your man! And back to them! Now look at your man!’

5. Players
Popular urban culture and Hollywood have perpetuated the myth of the black man as a player. This is in fact not true of black men in particular. All human beings must actively resist polygamy in their lives because of the pressures of evolution, which tell us to procreate with as many people as possible, and society, which dictates that we remain faithful to our chosen partner.

6. Black Men Like White Women
Now this one depends largely on who you ask. Interracial marriage is on the rise in America and the perception that black men like white women may stem from the fact that it is becoming more socially acceptable and therefore more common. In the end, a man and a woman will be together for reasons of personal compatibility, not race.

7. Black Men Don’t Take Care Of Their Children
A good black man will be a wonderful father to his children no matter what the circumstances. The trick is to avoid those who might take the easy way out of hard circumstances – of these there are plenty and they’re all shapes, sizes and colors.

8. He’s Been In Jail
This stereotype is like a bad joke gone worse. Urban and pop cultures have played on this perception to the point that those who unfamiliar with black people maintain some crazy ideas about our world.

9. Good At Dancing
The only reason people become known for dancing well is that one good mover can overshadow the 5 others who just escaped through the fire exit to avoid being pulled onto the dance floor.

We want to hear from you. What do you think about the validity of some of these stereotypes?

9 Stereotypes Of Black Women That Aren’t Always True

Written by YeahSheSaidIt on Hellobeautiful.com

With all of the negative media attention surrounding Black women it would seem that Black women are being picked apart from their physical appearance to their mentality. Which is why it is important to banish the negative stereotypes that harden the image of Black women. Check out these negative stereotypes of Black women that aren’t always true.

1.We Don’t Take Care Of Our Bodies

There is a generalization of Black women that they have no interest in taking care of our bodies. Or that we have no interest in eating right or going to the gym. We often hear about the research and studies that show how overweight Black women are and yes there are some overweight Black women. However, in the recent years with the health buzz that has become popular there also has been a rise in women of all races wanting to live a healthier life and live longer.

2. We Don’t Like To Listen To Our Men

Black women are raised to be strong minded. However, if we feel that he is responsible and we trust him then we have no problem listening to our man. It is only when we do not trust him or his motives that our guards begin to rise again and the trust vanishes.

3. We Don’t Want Or Have The Urge To Get Married

Despite the recent interest in successful Black women being single and assumed to not have any interest in marriage, the truth is that many of us do want to be married one day. Just because a woman has high aspirations for her career does not mean that she does not still yearn for her soul mate.
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4. Our Hair Defines Us

Yes, Black women do love their hair. We enjoy how beautiful a fresh style will make us feel. What women doesn’t love a fresh salon look? However as we have seen from the recent wave of Black women in entertainment shaving their heads, our hair does not define us. Hair no longer is used as the only vessel to make us feel attractive or even complete.

5. We Do Not Get Along With Other Women

This is a stereotype of all women. But it always seemed to me that Black women received the grunt of the burden of this because we are assumed to be overly aggressive and angry. Therefore, how could we ever co-exist together drama free? This simply is not always the case.

6. We Do Not Like To Perform Oral Sex

This stereotype in itself is unproven. For one, any woman who is in love with her man will put in the effort to please him as long as he is pleasing her. It is in a woman’s nature to want to keep her partner happy.

7. We Like To Argue And Fight Hence The Negative Attitude

Some women who possess this stereotypical attitude do this as a defense mechanism. I honestly do not believe that they enjoy being bitchy. It has become a means of protecting themselves from a world that is not always kind to them.

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8. We Are Gold Diggers

All women of every culture enjoy being lavished or cared for financially. Truth be told what women doesn’t? Hell! What person doesn’t? This is not just a Black woman’s thing.

9. We Like Dog Ass Men

Women of all races may find themselves attracted to the bad boy or at least the man who you KNOW is no damn good for you. Some women have to train themselves to distance themselves from being attracted to the wrong type of man who might not be as exciting but probably will treat them a hell of a lot better than the bad boy would.

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Understanding Why Men Climax So Fast

By How To Get The Man Of Your Dreams.com posted on YourTango.com

  

With mind control, we can control our climax, but this usually requires some far-off thought.

We’ve received this question from many women and have decided to address it here. As we often repeat, we’re here to help you understand how we think, and why we do what we do. The more you understand about us, the less confused you’ll be, and the easier it will be for you to have an open, successful relationship with the man of your dreams.

With that being said, we’ve heard some women state that they believe men who climax quickly are having lots of sex. How backwards is that? It’s actually just the opposite. One reason a man climaxes too quickly is because he’s excited, usually about a new sexual conquest. Like women love new shoes, we love new sexual experiences.

Don’t get us wrong, we love old sexual experiences too, especially if it’s been a long time since our last visit. When you finally let us past the pearly gates, we have spent so much energy on the chase that once we arrive, the energy built up has to dispense and out it goes like a bomb. Then you look at us and we look at you like, Oops, sorry… I’ll be ready next time. Give us a few seconds, and we pray that we’ll be back before you change your mind.

Often, we climax quickly because we’re not as sexually active as you may think. There’s a lot of built up energy that has to go somewhere. Foreplay takes a great deal of that energy away, so the time a woman is holding out burns up valuable sexual minutes. By the time you say yes, we are so surprised and happy that two seconds later, out the energy goes. Now, this is all under the assumption that he doesn’t have some sort of medical issue, which we don’t advise on. Assuming that his performance isn’t consistently two minutes or under, it’s probably not a medical issue.

If you’re new to us, a new experience can easily turn into an hour just because it’s new, and we intentionally want to make it last. We know the golden rule – longer is better. But if you’re having relations on a regular basis, it becomes more of an intimate situation than a sexual one. As the dynamics in your relationship change, the time in which he climaxes does too. When you’re a woman he’s just met, he’s going to give you his best and longest. Later in the relationship, he won’t be thinking about time anymore. It’ll just depend on how good he wants to make you feel. An unselfish man will control and hold his climax until you get yours to make sure you’re satisfied. With mind control, we can control our climax, but this usually requires some far-off thought.

A selfish man is just going to get his and not be concerned about whether you get yours. This is a big clue to tell you if he’s about himself or about the relationship.

We do have some tricks to deal with this problem, though you might not like some of our solutions. We know how important it is to satisfy you, because if we don’t, our chances for return visits will be doomed. To make sure we’ll be good, some of us will call another girl over before we see you and sleep with her first so that we’ll be ready for you later. Sorry to let this secret out of the bag, guys.

- Relationship Coach Myles P.

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